Feeling like a failure?

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Aida Baida Gil

Aida is a geneticist and certified career and life coach. She helps scientists who are struggling to decide the next step in their career create clarity and an action plan. Visit www.experimentyourlife.com to schedule a free consultation, and subscribe to her newsletter to receive monthly coaching tips. Find out about her new program So now what? Career Reinvention for Scientists

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Everyone else in the lab is so much smarter and more capable than you and feel that your accomplishments so far in your career are no big deal. On top of that your ligation didn’t work… again.., your boss is always on your back and you are dreading your upcoming poster presentation. Sometimes you feel that you are just not good enough for the job.

You are sure you don’t know enough and need to get more data, read more papers or practice more before you finish your dissertation or give a lecture. And of course you hate making mistakes, which are just more evidence of your ineptitude! In a nutshell, you feel like a failure.

It’s not just you

Unfortunately, about 70 per cent of us will feel this way at some point in our careers, especially when starting a new job. So don’t feel bad if you recognize this frame of mind as your own, because you are not alone.

Imposter syndrome

In most cases these feelings are perturbing but will disappear with time, as we gain experience. But for some people it will turn into what is known as “impostor syndrome”, a term coined in 1978 by clinical psychologists, Drs Pauline Clance Suzanne Imes (Psychother. Theor. Res. 15, 241–247; 1978).

The “impostor syndrome” is described as the inability to internalize your success and accomplishments. Sufferers think they don’t deserve success, doubt their own abilities, and you need to be perfect at everything. These feelings affect mostly high achievers (especially women); successful people who think their success is due to external factors such as good luck, rather than to their own skills. Of course, this can have a very negative effect in you career, causing you to avoid new opportunities, so limiting your success.

Overcoming a serious case of imposter syndrome will often require some counseling to replace the “faulty” mindset with a new one.

What can you do to overcome feeling like a failure?

Although the general problem will get better itself as you gain experience and confidence, you can help speed things up by doing the following:

  • Learn about it and recognize that you are not alone to avoid feeling isolated.
  • Talk about it with people you trust. Your partner, a good friend, a mentor or coach will support you and help you gain perspective. It’s always very useful and enlightening to see how other people perceive you (that’s how I found out that (1) I am a risk-taker, and (2) not only I’m not a failure for leaving academia, but apparently I’m smart and capable enough to be a geneticist and a professional life coach). What about you?
  • Don’t dismiss external validation. When you receive positive feedback, believe it!
  • Make a list of your strengths and accomplishments. Review it frequently.
  • Be aware of your thoughts. If you find yourself thinking you were ‘lucky’ to get a grant or publish a paper, remind yourself how hard you worked to earn it.
  • Accept that the opposite of perfect is real. You don’t have to know all the answers, you can make mistakes and ask for help, and you can (and will) have a bad day. You have as much right to it as anyone.

I hope this tips help you realize that you are neither alone, nor a failure. And I’d love to hear your opinion and personal experiences on of this problem.



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    5 months ago
  2. micronaut

    5 months ago

    I am currently studying for a PhD in a UK University, 3 months into my 2nd year and experiencing Dante’s 9 circles of hell with endless cloning problems. The first paragraph of this article is my life. For the past year or more I have felt like I am an impostor rather than a member of the lab, however I know that the PhD is a training degree that is supposed to provide these situations in order for me to learn.

    This was a timely article that has helped me to step back and consider that many others around the world are also in the same situation and this predicament is probably ingrained in the nature of the life of a scientist.

  3. ABClarke

    5 months ago

    Aida. Your analysis and suggestions are excellent. I would add that the enemy of imposter syndome is self-confidence. Your strategies, plus other regular reminders of an individual’s ongoing professional progress, can create a core of self-knowledge and strength that has many different positive applications.

  4. Aida

    5 months ago

    Micronaut, you are definitely not alone! And I’m glad the article helped you realize of that.

    ABClarke, thank you! I agree with you on that self-confidence is key. The competitiveness and high expectations scientists experience during their career make building self-confidence and self-knowledge a must.

  5. preeti

    5 months ago

    Nice article, if its possible to get full PDF of this paper as i cant access it from my university library.

  6. Researchhhhhh

    4 months ago

    Hey Dr.Gil,

    You are very true .I have this feeling all the time running in my head.I honestly feel that this is a great aticle to help ppl like me who always think that I am the only person with this kind of feeling or feeling low always.

    Thanks

    R

  7. Aida

    4 months ago

    Thank you for your comments, R. It does help knowing that you are not alone, that (unfortunately) most of your colleagues are feeling exactly the same way.

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